wedding event is a big thing to family. like mine, it's the time where everyone meet up and spill some good latest news around. realising that it's only a week left (yeah i keep counting days), there's seem a lot to catch up these few days. i couldn't tell that i'm such a person who keeps myself at the comfort zone. that's why mom keeps reminding me to pack my stuffs. but what a weekend. cousin's wedding event keeps me off the luggage. it's because; house chores - uncle's house - back home - chat with cousins - off to bed. few books left untouched, and i'm filling some few minutes before sleep finishing eat, pray, love by liz gilbert. i'm in the middle section of the book; pray. it's more to meditation thingy that i don't really fancy.
back to the topic (after realising that i wrote my life diary instead of something related to the post title. -__- )
so when it comes to school holidays, it indirectly refers to wedding event. a marriage. that would cost you a lifetime. i have this split perception on my mind. does early marriage at young age offer you a guarantee in the future? or what if i don't get married when the time has come? and sometimes the environment drags you to choose what you are still be confused at. i study at teacher training college where marriage topic is always on the verge of the conversation. it gets hotter and merrier when few people keep joining it to add up their opinions. opinions never fail me to give impressions on how these people are thinking. it's common to see trainee teachers get engaged, or even get married. they say that teachers end up having the same routine when they graduate. and so, what's wrong with getting married first. i can't say that they are wrong. it's just that i choose to have my own opinion. on how my life should be planned.
the late night mothers' talk always make me yawn to the max. and to keep me still alive, i texted some friends. just to have good virtual conversations. only that last night when they talked about nieces and nephews, and related to marriage stuff. i tell you what. there's only one big word to conclude everything about marriage while studying. a hell NO. no wonder they're not up to dating before marriage, even for now. i don't know how was your folks say about that. but to my family, there is always no no planted in their head for it. don't ever dream to get engaged while you're studying. worse to get married. you'll find it complicated to pass every questions they're asking. and it works like structured questions; the level of difficulty goes up for every level that you've passed. i never mention about it to my parents. still scared.
it's according to the family history too. i guess most of the folks (of mine) get married when they have stable job and something good to hold onto in future. like houses or investments.
i guess that i'm still young to predict what will happen in the future. it's a reminder for me to keep on focusing on study instead of stuff like this. i admit that somehow i picture myself getting married with kids and husband around. but reality strucks that marriage differs from what you're thinking right now. it's a whole new path to walk in. and for mates to attend my engagement day, it's not that soon. i mean for at least 3years from now. i have to build this wall on my mind to prevent me from thinking about this in first place.
what i got from the conversation : folks of mine assume that getting engaged at young age means that you've been dating for quite some times that you want it to be official.
"ini nak tunang mesti sebab dating lah tu. ingat tunang tu boleh menghalalkan ke semua. memang tak payah la nak bertunang. belajar dulu."
you get it?
and the perfect engagement period is 1 to 3 months of nikah. for them. not more than that.
if you've been engaged or get married to you partner at this time, don't get offended. i'm pretty sure that god has fated you that way. it's just me still finding good grip to enjoy what life has to offer you now and then.
SELAMAT PENGANTIN BARU KAK BIBAH & HARIZ. may happiness be around and blissful years to cherish together forever after.